Imagining you waiting outside the bathroom holding your pee because someone couldn’t give a shit or wanted more space knowing that you work there and need to use that stall is infuriating to me. I’ve had to wait countless times in public spaces, but this is your workplace and what enables you to work there. Same with parking and wherever else that’s needed to level the playing field. It’s generous to refer to this as decorum. You need to be able to access the bathroom when you need it. This makes me so angry.
The world would be a better place if all restroom stall were made accessible. Everyone likes bigger spaces given the choice. I can’t count the times I’ve waited for an accessible stall. I always try and be proactive so I’m not bouncing off the wall needing to pee! But it happens and there’s nothing more frustrating than waiting on the only accessible stall when there are plenty of open small stalls! Some apologize but most are clueless or just plain mean! Common courtesy isn’t so common unfortunately.
This is a really important article. When I’m reading it, there are so many unkind things I want to say to the selfish woman using the stall she does not need, but would her ableist ignorance even allow her to care? 😣
I’m absolutely seething for you right now. I can’t imagine the anxiety and stress this caused for you. I’m especially angry at the perpetrator and the fact that there wasn’t even an ounce of remorse on her part. What a bitch!
Such blatant harassment is infuriating. Looking back at this, would you do anything differently to rectify this and put the bitch in her place? Such as you and the other wheelchair users go directly to management. I can imagine the anger and anxiety you experienced. That women has so much hostility and arrogance. She has crossed the line.
Thanks Cynthia. I have wondered about that too and haven’t come up with anything we didn’t try that was civil behavior. Maybe that was a problem as I wasn’t willing to cross that line.
There is such a sense of entitlement that some people have. And if they see someone/anyone getting something that's not meant for them, they make a point of taking it over. (I yelled at a man on Sunday for parking on the blue lines/access space of a disabled parking spot. "Oh, were you going to park here," he snarked. "No. But if it's blue, it's not for you. Move your car." He did. The jerk.) I've literally heard people say, "Why should they get all the good parking?" Like, you're that empty and myopic you're pissed about walking 10 extra feet? Same with disabled stalls. Your office should've locked those stalls and given keys to those who should be using it. It's not the Gucci stall. You aren't getting a first class upgrade to pee. You are taking up space that someone else needs. These are people who look at the world like it's pie. If someone gets a slice, that means there may not be enough or any for them. It's beyond irritating. And I'm sorry you had to deal with that, Kelly. Next time, send her my way. xo
Imagining you waiting outside the bathroom holding your pee because someone couldn’t give a shit or wanted more space knowing that you work there and need to use that stall is infuriating to me. I’ve had to wait countless times in public spaces, but this is your workplace and what enables you to work there. Same with parking and wherever else that’s needed to level the playing field. It’s generous to refer to this as decorum. You need to be able to access the bathroom when you need it. This makes me so angry.
Thanks David. Agreed. It is beyond insensitive and really inhumane. I can’t imagine that I would treat anyone that way.
That story makes my blood boil.
The world would be a better place if all restroom stall were made accessible. Everyone likes bigger spaces given the choice. I can’t count the times I’ve waited for an accessible stall. I always try and be proactive so I’m not bouncing off the wall needing to pee! But it happens and there’s nothing more frustrating than waiting on the only accessible stall when there are plenty of open small stalls! Some apologize but most are clueless or just plain mean! Common courtesy isn’t so common unfortunately.
Well said!
This is a really important article. When I’m reading it, there are so many unkind things I want to say to the selfish woman using the stall she does not need, but would her ableist ignorance even allow her to care? 😣
Thanks for the support, Kimmy
I’m absolutely seething for you right now. I can’t imagine the anxiety and stress this caused for you. I’m especially angry at the perpetrator and the fact that there wasn’t even an ounce of remorse on her part. What a bitch!
Thanks for your support, Amelia
Such blatant harassment is infuriating. Looking back at this, would you do anything differently to rectify this and put the bitch in her place? Such as you and the other wheelchair users go directly to management. I can imagine the anger and anxiety you experienced. That women has so much hostility and arrogance. She has crossed the line.
Thanks Cynthia. I have wondered about that too and haven’t come up with anything we didn’t try that was civil behavior. Maybe that was a problem as I wasn’t willing to cross that line.
There is such a sense of entitlement that some people have. And if they see someone/anyone getting something that's not meant for them, they make a point of taking it over. (I yelled at a man on Sunday for parking on the blue lines/access space of a disabled parking spot. "Oh, were you going to park here," he snarked. "No. But if it's blue, it's not for you. Move your car." He did. The jerk.) I've literally heard people say, "Why should they get all the good parking?" Like, you're that empty and myopic you're pissed about walking 10 extra feet? Same with disabled stalls. Your office should've locked those stalls and given keys to those who should be using it. It's not the Gucci stall. You aren't getting a first class upgrade to pee. You are taking up space that someone else needs. These are people who look at the world like it's pie. If someone gets a slice, that means there may not be enough or any for them. It's beyond irritating. And I'm sorry you had to deal with that, Kelly. Next time, send her my way. xo